I’m a subscriber to a great female fitness movement called Girls Gone Strong (if you want no bullsh*t fitness advice then check out their site….like now.).
As an email subscriber I received a little note from Molly, one of the creators of GGS that talked about how when we strive so hard to be perfect in something that we end up not doing anything at all.
Why? Because perfection is unattainable and downright exhausting!
So instead of just exercising 1-2 times per week when your schedule doesn’t allow for the crazy, 6-day per week “bikini challenge” program, you just end up doing no exercise at all and eating a pint of ice-cream as you curse your lack of willpower.
Maybe your experience sounds a bit like my client Susana’s:
“I did not realize that I subconsciously had been implanting self-limiting beliefs about exercising. I had thought it like a complete waste of time with no immediate result. There was no way I could lose weight or get rid of that belly fat anytime soon. So, what’s the point? I believed I was quite healthy and I did not think exercise would make a difference.”
One of the hardest things in actually getting started and doing something is ignoring all the fitness-BS out there. The 30-day challenges, the bikini-body guides, the macro-eating plans, the whole food diets, etc, etc. Yes, there is some truth to all of these programs but why do we want to follow something that stresses us out, is unsustainable, and typically prevents us from even taking action in the first place.
*(A little secret, getting fit is rather simple, you do not need the, “super-secret, developed-in-a-lab, you must drink $1,000 green-tea before your workout”-type programs to see success. Trust me.)*
This post written by Christine Beauchamp on the GGS site dives in on how common pitfalls and social media actually hinder our fitness goals and hurt our mental state. I encourage you to give it a read!
Us, Type-A, all-or-nothing ladies will probably always face the “paralysis by perfection” pitfall, but with practice we can learn to get past this and see amazing results, especially with our fitness.
Here are my 3 fav tips that I use constantly to get past this:
- DO IT FOR YOU, NOT ANYONE ELSE
Ignore social media, just for a minute and try to forget about everyone else. Embark on your fitness journey only for yourself. Yes, others’ influences and even motivations may be a part of your journey, but stressing about performing for an audience does not help us. Do it for you first and you will inevitably please the (important) people around you.
- STOP THIKING OF THE RESULTS AND ENJOY THE STEPS YOU’RE TAKING NOW
Quit ONLY focusing on that fit body you long for. The body will come, but honestly it’s not coming tomorrow (sorry, bit of tough love there). Instead focus your attention on the things you enjoy right now about the journey. Maybe it’s the small increases in strength you see each week, the few pounds you’re able to lose each month, how you have enough energy to get everything done in a day with some to spare! Enjoy these steps and celebrate them because that’s what’s going to ensure you love and stick with this journey for the long-term.
- IF YOU FAIL, WHAT’S THE WORST THING THAT COULD HAPPEN?
Seriously, what’s the absolute worse thing that could happen if you TRY this exercise program and DON’T follow it to a “T”? Will you die? I highly, highly doubt it. I bet you $100 if you DON’T follow it perfectly you will see some results, maybe enjoy the workouts, and probably learn something new about exercise and how it affects your body. Seriously, you won’t die, so you might as well try.
Just like my client Susana, we can get past this paralyzing-effect of perfection, check out her transformation both mentally and physically:
“Karen has helped me tremendously in recognizing my self-limiting belief and how to turn them into powerful self-talk. Her step-by-step e-guide shows not only how to get started but also how to make it last.
The results? Well, the first time I started, I did a yoga session – in the comfort of my bedroom and still wearing my PJs if I may add – for just 15 minutes once a week. Now, after 13 weeks, it becomes a 40-minute session, three times a week! And to top it all off, I don’t dread it anymore. I don’t beat myself up knowing I won’t get fast results. I set myself up for the long game and most importantly, enjoy every minute of it.”